mary
21 - Portland - committed polyamory
pan queer // femme // cis
white + Native // social + generalized anxiety disorder + chronic depression //

i'm a hysterical pro-trans/NB feminist, white-critical, personal misandrist, unapologetic fat bitch so uh. yeah. i also like a fuckshitton of problematic fandoms.

if you reblog posts from me and vomit ignorant shit all over them i will probably come pick up the trash.

WARNING: blog is super triggery. also don't follow me if you can't handle seeing harsh language used at privileged fucktrucks. i've been phasing myself out of casual harmful language but i'm a fuckup. also i don't tag fucking ~anything INCLUDING GIFS so be warned.

if you are:
an MRA, TERF, "concerned" about my health due to my fatness, or in general wanna fight, get away from me before i puke on you. i have no patience left for you people.

if you live in Portland we should try to be friends!!

<3

 

thisiswhiteprivilege:

One major facet of cultural appropriation is taking artifacts that would be violent on the body of a person of color and making them trendy on a white body.

That’s why Forever 21 is able to sell a Black Panther crop top, and why Che Guevara t-shirts are so popular, and why Macklemore can win Grammy’s for writing songs about smelly sheets, and why white drugged out kids can walk around Coachella in tacky “native” headdresses.

When people of color cannot participate in aspects of their culture without persecution, but white people are welcome to those aspects, that’s a major undeniable example of white privilege.

therapsida:

it’s funny how providing accommodations to a disabled student is “unfair to the rest of the class” yet imposing a standard on a disabled student that is based on the capabilities of able-bodied students is fair and impartial, isn’t it funny how that works?

comfemgem:

tumblrinaction reminds me of like, an 80’s cartoon where the villains are in their castle looking through their crystal ball or magic mirror or whatever at the smurfs or the ponies or whatever and they’re like “Eugh, I can’t stand all this…goodness!”.

youarenotyou:

like seriously if you think it’s okay to make fun of people, or shame them, because they aren’t “healthy” you are absolutely disgusting

and if you think people aren’t allowed to feel good about themselves unless they’re healthy, you are a really awful person

Anonymous asked
So because I am white, I can't experience racism? So the many times that I got rocks thrown at me because the color of my skin for being white in a predominately native american part of town wasn't racism? All the times, by that same group of people I got told to get off the playground because of something that happened a few hundred years ago, that I have no connection to isn't racism? All this in elementary school mind you. Racism goes both ways whether you like it or not.

cishits:

Your experience with assholes who bullied you was awful. It was absolutely prejudice & discrimination.

But your individual experience =/= the systematic institution that is racism.

Also, don’t be so quick to dismiss “what happened a few hundred years ago” as if Native peoples aren’t still suffering under our white (supremacist) society.

anukii:

rocprinceray:

White People: - “Black people are always pulling the race card!”

And let’s not forget the white man who left his infant child in a car and got no punishment but a news interview and “possible” charges.

an example of (real, non-reverse, instituational, pervasive, daily, life-destroying, can&#8217;t log off from) racism

anukii:

rocprinceray:

White People: - “Black people are always pulling the race card!”

And let’s not forget the white man who left his infant child in a car and got no punishment but a news interview and “possible” charges.

an example of (real, non-reverse, instituational, pervasive, daily, life-destroying, can’t log off from) racism

since i can’t seem to reblog this from you on mobile and it deeply, truly bothers me that you reblogged this from me, i’m going to answer this way.
congratulations. you had someone who is a member of a minority group harass you on a website. unfortunate, rude, shouldn’t happen. it is completely incomparable to racism, because racism is a sociological concept that has to do with systematic oppression. you know. in the actual world. there IS another word for what you experienced. it’s called prejudice. not racism. white people as a group are not, and never have been, systematically oppressed or exploited by basis of race. racism does not and never will affect us. white people may have intersecting identities that they do experience oppression via, such as sexism, homophobia, classism, and disability. but racism? no. never. stop saying it. stop thinking it. you are not a victim of race-based oppression. you do not deal with institutional schema so deeply biased against your race that it is now cultural across multiple generations and permeates every aspect of life. you do not deal with medicine, education, and society (outside of tumblr lol sorry abt yr fee fees) devaluing your life on basis of your white skin. one black person being mean to you on the internet makes nothing different about that. nothing about me calling you out makes white people magically not racist anymore! so just stop. you have no clue what you’re talking about.

since i can’t seem to reblog this from you on mobile and it deeply, truly bothers me that you reblogged this from me, i’m going to answer this way.

congratulations. you had someone who is a member of a minority group harass you on a website. unfortunate, rude, shouldn’t happen. it is completely incomparable to racism, because racism is a sociological concept that has to do with systematic oppression. you know. in the actual world. there IS another word for what you experienced. it’s called prejudice. not racism. white people as a group are not, and never have been, systematically oppressed or exploited by basis of race. racism does not and never will affect us. white people may have intersecting identities that they do experience oppression via, such as sexism, homophobia, classism, and disability. but racism? no. never. stop saying it. stop thinking it. you are not a victim of race-based oppression. you do not deal with institutional schema so deeply biased against your race that it is now cultural across multiple generations and permeates every aspect of life. you do not deal with medicine, education, and society (outside of tumblr lol sorry abt yr fee fees) devaluing your life on basis of your white skin. one black person being mean to you on the internet makes nothing different about that. nothing about me calling you out makes white people magically not racist anymore! so just stop. you have no clue what you’re talking about.

Anonymous asked
Actually anyone can experience racism. It's stated on dictionary[.]com as 'hatred or intolerance of another race or other races.' Nothing says that it's only for, or excludes one race or another. Though white people do experience much less than others, it's still there, even if in a tiny amount.

cishits:

Stop trying to ~feel included~

White people don’t experience racism- period. And no matter how many backpedaling reductions of the “severity” of the “racism” that white people face, it doesn’t change the fact that you view this as some game and you want to play too. 

No matter how many times we say it, some turd will slither up in our inbox and say “actually, no, even if it’s just, like, one atom compared to the milky way, white people can still experience racism” 

At that point, even if you’re right, let’s pretend you’re right, it’s a game of semantics. You’re basically conceding that whatever ~oppression~ white people face for being white is so miniscule it’s insignificant… why still bring attention to it, why give it a name? Why even try to put it on the same level as the oppression people of color face?

Because that’s what you do when you insist on calling this imaginary tiny amount of white oppression the same thing as the colossal amount of PoC oppression.

So, stop. Stop right now, stop forever. 

White people cannot and never will experience racism. 

fattyforever:

curvily:

How often have you been shopping and you come across something that is just PERFECT, but does not go up to your size? Over 60% of American women wear a size 14 or above, but only 17% of clothing sold is 14 &amp; up. That is a ridiculous disparity.
Moreover, when some brands move into plus (ahem H&amp;M), they throw their signature trendy looks by the wayside in favor of flowy dark fabrics that they think “work” for plus sizes. That is crap. Plus size women want color, print, and structure. Moreover, we want variety. A group this numerous cannot be a monolith, and since style is such a personal thing, we all have different tastes. I want #plussizeplease to be a way to showcase the demand for styles we’d buy and rock, and all the money brands are forfeiting by refusing to expand their sizes.
So here’s how to use it:
1) Snap a picture of a garment you love but does not come in your size. Include the brand and price, tagging the company if possible. For example, I am in love with this Zara marble print dress. I would have purchased it yesterday if it went above a size L. My tweet would be:
“.@Zara marble print sheath, $59. I’d buy it right now if it came in my size. #plussizeplease”
2) Use it on any social media – Twitter, Instagram, Tumblr, Pinterest… even Facebook supports hashtags now.
3) Tag anything you’d purchase, whether in store or online.
4) Feel free to include the size range it comes in and/or the size you think you’d need. Sizing can be tricky, so this is definitely not required.
5) Tell your friends! I don’t just want this to be a blogger thing – I want all women who wear size 14 and up to show their purchasing power and share styles they love. Let’s be unignorable!

Um, yes. I will be doing this.

fattyforever:

curvily:

How often have you been shopping and you come across something that is just PERFECT, but does not go up to your size? Over 60% of American women wear a size 14 or above, but only 17% of clothing sold is 14 & up. That is a ridiculous disparity.

Moreover, when some brands move into plus (ahem H&M), they throw their signature trendy looks by the wayside in favor of flowy dark fabrics that they think “work” for plus sizes. That is crap. Plus size women want color, print, and structure. Moreover, we want variety. A group this numerous cannot be a monolith, and since style is such a personal thing, we all have different tastes. I want #plussizeplease to be a way to showcase the demand for styles we’d buy and rock, and all the money brands are forfeiting by refusing to expand their sizes.

So here’s how to use it:

1) Snap a picture of a garment you love but does not come in your size. Include the brand and price, tagging the company if possible. For example, I am in love with this Zara marble print dress. I would have purchased it yesterday if it went above a size L. My tweet would be:

“.@Zara marble print sheath, $59. I’d buy it right now if it came in my size. #plussizeplease”

2) Use it on any social media – Twitter, Instagram, Tumblr, Pinterest… even Facebook supports hashtags now.

3) Tag anything you’d purchase, whether in store or online.

4) Feel free to include the size range it comes in and/or the size you think you’d need. Sizing can be tricky, so this is definitely not required.

5) Tell your friends! I don’t just want this to be a blogger thing – I want all women who wear size 14 and up to show their purchasing power and share styles they love. Let’s be unignorable!

Um, yes. I will be doing this.

hey there fat queer and/or trans people of the internet

troglobite:

There’s a great documentary being made called Fattitude about the stigma against fat bodies that we’re constantly bombarded with. The preview video they’ve put together looks incredibly promising, and they say specifically that they’re talking about gender, race, class, and a number of other issues and how they interact with the problems and stigmas surrounding fatness in our society.

But I noticed that they only mentioned men and women, and by ‘gender’ they meant the sexism and misogyny inherent in a lot of fatphobia. So I went to their Facebook page to ask about it, and got a response within a few minutes (like damn, that was impressive). 

They said they don’t have anything about queerness and transness in the film yet, but that “doesn’t mean they don’t want to.” And then they asked for interview recommendations. 

Which brings me to the point of this post. 

If you are fat and queer and/or trans, and willing to do an interview about fatness stigmas in the queer and trans communities, please head over to their Facebook page (or whatever other means of contact are listed on their Kickstarter) and let them know!

This is super important and this movie sounds awesome and very promising, so let’s help them cover as many bases as possible! 

TL;DR: There’s an awesome documentary about fatness, but no queer or trans people or issues involved as of yet. Head over to either of the links above to contact them if you’re fat and queer and/or trans, and let them know you’d like to do an interview! 

Finally: If you’re not cool with an interview but are fat and queer and/or trans, signal boost this, or donate, or contact them and give some input or recommendations for interviews or media to use in their documentary! 

transpotter:

if u accept well passing trans people but make fun of trans people who are either early on in their transition or just dont live up to your outrageous disgusting standards then ur gross and double gross as well

thebiggestnerd:

So, real talk for a second guys

If you ever accidentally call 911, DON’T HANG UP.  Stay on the line and tell the calltaker that you accidentally dialed.  When you hang up, we either have to call you back or send out police which takes up valuable resources and wastes money.  A simple “It was an accident” is all we need and everyone goes about their life much better